Unconditional love is an interesting thought. It’s meaning is someone who can love another freely, without judgement, or having any type of expectations. It doesn’t put demands on time, and you can focus on the well-being of a person. The claim is that it is love with no strings attached.

The issue with the term that I have is that the word “healthy” should be in front of the word unconditional. When this happens boundaries and mutual respect can and should occur. Having or showing unconditional love does not equal unconditional tolerance. You have to show people how to treat you and how you should be loved. You can accept someone for who they are flawed and all, but if the flaw is disrespect to you or themselves than there needs to be conditions.

To many adults have grown up hearing “well that’s just the way I am”, “or this is how so and so is”, which is just excuses for people to not fix or deal with their issues. To often people bring their past “ships” onboard their new “ships” and then get upset when the ship sinks. The new person didn’t do those things to you. They didn’t cheat, lie, manipulate and attempt to steal your joy, that’s just the energy left over from your last voyage. The thing is you have to get good at recognizing patterns. Ask yourself “why does this same energy keep appearing”, why do I only seem to attract people who want to disrupt my life? Often times it is so you can build up resilience and recognize when something is not for you quicker.

The development of self love (which includes major boundaries) is vital in maintaining your peace and balance. If you don’t care enough about you, how can you expect someone else too? If you are not taking care of yourself, no one is going to take heed to treat you correctly either. Energy begets energy. Once you learn how to raise your vibrational energy then you start attracting what or whom it is you desire, want and need.

Does this mean that low vibrational energies won’t come? Of course not, moths are attracted to bright lights, but you have to learn how to shine brightly and ignore dust mites. The balance comes into play by not fully cutting yourself off all the time (you can block blessings by doing that) but also knowing when to sit at rest and be tucked away whilst working on self.

The boundaries play a huge part in this balance. What you allow and don’t allow are paramount to your growth. Think about it, if you keep hanging around a dog that has fleas, pretty soon you’ll catch fleas. It’s really as simple as that. Start to hang around people who vibrate at the level you want to be at. Change up your habits, atmosphere and environment. Move, block, delete and start again. Life is what YOU make it, and it doesn’t have to be hard, it just has to have balance and boundaries.

With love and light,

Just Dee